My Preschooler

We have been facing some challenges on handling Lucas behavior lately. He threw tantrums and whines easily. He swept books off from the shelves. When asked to sit on a chair, he lied flat under a chair. He does trial and errors in every situation possible. Like every concerned parents, we asked, read and seek advises for how we can manage better. It could only be a phase but more often, but we really  felt that we are losing it. Because my intuition tells me it's more than just a phase.

A friend shared from a book:

a child's desire for independence come too soon: before they are able to see what is really happening around them; before they are able to appreciate the consequences of their actions; and before they have the skills to manage and negotiate their way through difficult situations, they have a tendency to "try to run before they walk" in many areas of their lives. And because they seem so able and mature, parents often let them make decisions for themselves. One of the affects was Emotional Health. People assumed these children are equally developed but it does not mean that their ability, deal with and appropriately express their emotions is equally developed. In fact, more often, they pretend to be adult much of the time will avoid expression of emotion as childish. (sources: here)

I always have the same belief as what was quoted by my friend. We all know he is only 4 and 3 years old then. He has always been taller than his peers, a little brighter maybe, people tend to give him wrong assumption that "he should be able to know this by now". As much as I knew about it, our household tolerance of his doing "silly" things is very low. It bothers me. Sometimes, I would fight for his rights because he is just a kid.

Whenever he fell asleep, he reminds me of that sensible and lovely toddler. It pains to make me wonder what we have not done enough for him.  Maybe we have been too scattered with him. Maybe we need to shower him with more love and attention. He definitely needs lot more assurance that how he has projected himself. So crazy and this is happening to a preschooler.

One thing that we are certain, he loves his sister very much and the sister admires her brother a lot. I have no siblings. Watching them loving each other, is perhaps one of the most touching moments in my parenting life.

I love my children. I love this boy. There is something, as parents, we need to do to help him. Have you faced the same challenge before?